How different is when you celeberate something as a couple or when you celebrate something as parents? Quite different and I am sure you all will agree. So ok let’s have a look at how celebrate every special day before and after kids starting from January.
New Year –
Before kids –
- At a weekend destination attending resort’s private party till wee hours.
- In a pub dancing or a club drinking and making merry or a fine dine in a hotel.
- Cosying up in your blanket with cosy and warm dinner (either ordered in or cooked together), with drinks.
- At friend’s or cousin’s place at a barbeque and karaoke party with great food and lots of drinks.
After kids –
- Watching dance and music show/ cartoon show on tv with kids till 10pm and then making them sleep and hushing over a coffee after kids sleep.
- At extended family dinners where all.the kids create a havoc, men drink and women cook.
- At a weekend destination attending a resort’s private party till 10pm and then back to room with kids.
Valentine’s day –
Before kids –
- Spending a day out together watching a movie, lunch, long drive, dinner, coffee.
- Attending a valentine’s day special event in a hotel.
- Staycation at a resort in the outskirts of the city.
After kids –
- There is no such day as Valentine’s day (specially if kids have school next day).
Navratri –
Before kids –
- Attending back to back dandiya nights, hogging onto junk food, hopping from pandal to pandal.
After kids –
- Visit different Dussehra melas to please kids, give into their demands of junk food and then worry about their health.
Diwali –
Before kids –
- Visiting friends and family, eating good food, making rangolis, lighting a lot of diyas, candles and lights, wearing heaviest of clothes.
After kids –
- Visiting only a few people, keeping healthy food for kids as first option, lighting only a few diyas, candles and lights to make house safer for kids.
Christmas – One festival that is definitely more fun with kids.
Before kids –
- Usual fun with friends; lunch, dinner, drink or coffee scenes.
After kids –
- Making a christmas tree, buying santa dresses for kids, arranging or attending play dates, cake cutting, visiting christmas carnivals.
Your or hubby’s birthday –
Before kids –
- Midnight surprises, family lunches, long drives, romantic dinner.
- Much awaited trip full of fun.
After kids –
- Cards by kids, midnight surprises by kids, ordering in or family lunch/dinner.
Your Anniversary –
Before kids –
- A long trip to an exotic/peaceful/hapening destination.
After kids –
- Trips if kid’s school schedule allow
- Gifts by kids (too), family lunches/dinner.
Well isn’t this a story almost everywhere? I am sure it is. Sometime your kids don’t want to let you go, the other times you are too guilty to celebrate without them. It’s not that you don’t get a couple time or me time after kids but it certainly gets reduced.
Well I guess no one is complaining either!
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