Most of you by now know that I have a love for writing. So today, when I opened my lifeline, that is my Momspresso app to write something, I was struggling with ideas on what to write. So, I opened the section which gives us prompts for our next post. There I found this topic which caught my eye. ‘What would you like to be a mom Vs a parent.’
It got me thinking. For a child’s good personality, good behaviour, good upbringing, better future, and better etiquettes, it is definitely important to be a parent. I want my kids to have all that certainly who wouldn’t after all. So that means I would choose to be a parent and not a mom? What is the difference by the way?
Well who knows it better than me, I have been missing my Mom’s presence in my life for 10 years. But as a writer, I don’t want to shadow my readers with my personal opinions and experiences all the time so I took help of the one in whom most of rely these days (even more than our parents), the internet.
Internet says, “Being a mom means more than having given birth to a child. It’s loving and knowing a soul before you even see it. It’s carrying and caring for a life completely dependent on you for survival. It’s building their self-esteem, supporting their dreams, and loving them unconditionally. You don’t have to bear a child to be a mom, but you have to feel the child.”
Internet also says, “The primary care giver, biological, or legal of an offspring is its parent.” So, here I got my answer, I definitely want to be Mom because a parent might get replaced, but no one can ever take the place of a Mom. My kids might get fended off by anyone who has resources and heart big enough to fend them off, but they won’t ever get another mom. That emotional connect which only a mother can give to a child is irreplaceable.
I would also like to mention that I am not at all belittling the role of a caregiver (father/mother/grandparent/any other). All I am trying to say is as and when required a mom can be a parent, but a parent can not always be a mom.
Let me discuss with you where all a mom can switch roles of being a mom to being a parent in her kid’s life –
1. A mom, if required, will earn for you, provide for you, and make sure you are taken care of. Gone are the days when only a father could do that;
2. A mom whenever required will discipline you, make sure you never stray. She will discipline you like a teacher;
3. A mom whenever required can teach you, she can make sure that you study;
4. A mom can, like grandparents, recite to you stories, lullabies, moral science stories; can take you to temples, teach you the culture.
5. A mom has ten eyes when it comes to her kids, she can think on directions where no one else can.
6. Anyone with medical intervention can check what a kid wants if he or she is not well, but a mom knows exactly what needs to be done for them when they are emotionally cranky.
So for my kids… Today, tomorrow, and always, I would choose to be a Mom.